on motherhood and 'pro-life' religion

I've been thinking a bit about my troubled nephew. i'm pretty sure most if not all of his troubles stem from growing up a lone child in a single parent household in a society which doesn't promote communal childcare with a mother who didn't seem to know how to nurture, or to be more blunt, who didn't seem to love him.

i think the same applies to me somewhat, although i had 2 parents. neither of them seemed to take much interest in me. plus back in the 50s i guess parents in western societies or at least here in the u.s. were encouraged to be rather negligent regarding infant needs, as it was thought they'd spoil their child if they responded to it's cries too much. although i can't recall being an infant it's easy to imagine that i wasn't held or nurtured nearly enough, considering the way my parents treated me when i was older. i've read from multiple sources that infancy is a critical time of development and that it's especially important for infants to be held a lot and be given oodles of attention/love.

this is something 'pro-lifers' don't seem to get at all when they insist that women who get pregnant but don't want to carry the child to term for whatever reason be forced to. if a woman doesn't want to become a mother she's probably not going to be a good one. and the child is going to absorb her lack of attachment and suffer for it and probably be affected for the rest of it;s life, adversely.

similarly they don't seem to get that life itself can become burdensome or tortuous, especially for those with a terminal illness like cancer. this makes me hate and not understand them. i can only think of them as dogmatic, brainwashed. i especially hate the catholic church and other religious sects which promote the 'pro-life' view. i think of them as sick and evil, don't u?

also, regarding the catholic church and other puritanical religious sects, i've long reached the conclusion that with regards to human sexuality, their 'morality' is designed to minimize pleasure and maximize reproductive consequences, which i regard as just plain stupidcrazy, unless one takes into consideration the conspiratorial view that the church's function isn't to promote human well being, but rather to promote a sort of deadened human spirit which is more amenable to being controlled and exploited by 'authority'. and as u ought to well know by now, i am a 'conspiracy theorist'!